There have been some recent developments with two past characters
from my Undercover Agnostic series, the pregnant neighbor “Jennifer” from the
post The
Cult of Fetus Worship, and the Pentecostal boss of mine (let’s call him “Carl”)
from my second post, Questions
From My Boss About My Unbelief, that I wrote in January 2013.
First, I’ll start with Jennifer. Apparently either her
doctors had made a mistake, or she had misunderstood what they had said. Their
warnings about missing limbs and brain damage to the fetus were about what would
happen if her blood pressure and blood disorder problems were to continue, they
haven’t so far.
Ultrasounds have shown that nothing seems to have gone wrong
so far, and so she had changed her mind about going to Maryland for the late term abortion. It
still makes me mad that most states, including Illinois , wouldn’t have done it, even under
extreme and/or life threatening circumstances, it’s putting religion over
doctors when it comes to healthcare decisions.
What was just as bad as the broken legal system was the fact
that my mother was still trying to convince her not to have an abortion despite
the fact with what we knew at the time, she could have died giving birth (3
women in her family had actually died in the past under similar circumstances,
it’s genetic).
Its why, in frustration, that I had titled the post “The
Cult of Fetus Worship”, if someone is so strong in their views against abortion
that they would rather take the horrible odds against a woman’s life in extreme
circumstances over the idea of her having an abortion, they’re not “pro-life”,
it’s a cult of fetus worship in reality.
Though she has decided to give birth, she is making
arrangements with a local couple to adopt. Her doctors, once they knew she
wanted to give birth, had started helping her to find possible adoptive
parents.
This is all going on with her husband’s support (he had been
married before, didn't’ want to have any children, but a vasectomy reversed itself,
it’s rare, but it
can happen), but her teen daughter is rather disappointed about this, she
wanted a new sister or brother to be added to the family. Hopefully this won’t
affect her already existing mental health issues (which was one of many reasons
that they wanted to put the child up for adoption if she gave birth).
In recent weeks, Jennifer has moved with the family to a neighboring
town, they wanted to own their own home, and their rental house was rather
small (about 500-600 square feet), with old windows that let in too much air,
and let out too much sound. Apparently their landlord wasn't interested in
replacing those windows.
The Pentecostal Boss:
In the post Questions
from My Boss About My Unbelief back in January, I talked about my boss, I’ll
call him Carl, who apparently word had gotten around to him through the company
that I was a former Christian. Everyone at the company knew he was a rather
religious man, though he never talked about it, and rarely made any mentions of
god, and usually in a calm, manner of fact way, he never tried to convince
anyone of anything.
He was usually a happy guy, and had this odd persona about
him to the effect that you could easily imagine him being one of those Mormon
missionaries that knock on your door on a Saturday morning (in fact, I had
wondered if he was a Mormon). He would always show up to the dock office in a
polo shirt of some kind, and khaki pants (while most warehouse floor
supervisors didn’t even bother dressing that formal), with a calm, cool demeanor
to him, friendly to everyone.
One extremely slow work day this past January, he had pulled
up to the guard shack, since his shift ended an hour before mine, and had asked
about what he had heard about me leaving Christianity, I had told very few
people at the company about this on rare occasions when religion was brought up
somehow, but apparently that was enough to get back around to him.
I had told him most of what had happened in the long
process to deconversion, but had left out some of the more extreme and
personal details, like the abuse
in my past.
I had told him about my depression, and my mom’s response to my
nervous breakdown, and the issues I had with the Bible and with the very
concept of a god. He had listened without any judgment, and unlike most
religious people, he understood how that would push someone towards unbelief,
and didn’t try to convince me otherwise.
As he talked, I began to realize that he was a
fundamentalist Pentecostal and not a Mormon, as I had been wondering about. I
had told him about my own experience with the Assembly of God denomination as a
young boy, and my
first speaking in tongues experience.
This week, I had noticed a paper pinned to a board next to
the electronic system that we use to clock in and out for each shift that said “It
has been a pleasure working with all of you, God bless”. No name was given on
the paper, and I had asked one of the night supervisors standing there who had
put it up, and he had said it was Carl. I saw him as I was leaving getting into
an electronic go cart that supervisors often use to shuttle back and forth
across the building (the building is a mile long, end to end).
I had asked him if that was his farewell note to the
company, and he had said that it was, he had put it up around noon, because
some people had been asking him. He had only told some people in the
administrative office that he was leaving to go to another company, and had
wanted them to keep it quiet until he was about to leave, he said he didn't
want a lot of fanfare when he left, but apparently someone in that office had
let it leak out that he was going.
I’ll miss him, he was one of the few supervisors in the
company that really accepted me for who I am, unlike the arrogant floor
supervisor he used to have to work side by side with who couldn't stand me, and
I felt the same way about him (he has since been fired for unrelated reasons).
Most of them just seemed to tolerate me out of politeness.
His opinion of me didn't change after I had told him about
leaving Christianity, which makes him a rather rare person among religious
fundamentalists, when I had originally published that post, there were concerns
from some people, including blogging friend, Ahab, that it could happen,
and that it wasn't really appropriate (or legal) for him to ask.
I'm glad he respects you for who you are after you told him about your deconversion.
ReplyDeleteHe wasn't like most fundies, thankfully.
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