I am writing to inform you that we removed your name from our membership list by your request. I shared with the congregation Wednesday about your decision, and we are committed to loving you and praying for your restoration to Christ's church. I would still welcome you to come and ask me questions. My door is open to you.Talk about a healthy dose of good old fashioned fundamentalist shaming and passive aggressiveness. A fellow blogger (and former fundamentalist) on Facebook told me that they're practically telling me in fundie speak between the lines that I'm on the road to hell. This about sums up the way I feel about that:
|Tweet courtesy of the Tweet of God parody account on Twitter|
I am also highly suspicious of what he means by sharing with the congregation about my decision. I don't trust him, and some of the details I had told him, and explicitly told him was to remain in that office (why did I do that?), I wouldn't doubt that he has probably at least told my parents, if not the congregation itself.
He doubted what I said from the beginning about how my parents were, and "Jason", my former Sunday School teacher, who is the only person from this church standing behind me so far, has said that my mom probably ran to him and spilled all kind of her lies about me, and fundie parents always stick together, even when one of their own is in the wrong.
forced their children to live in cages, and called the father a "hero". They circle the wagons, defend each other, right or wrong. (Especially the baby boomer parents in that culture)
I was surprised by the way Pastor Jones reacted, trying to make excuses for them, trying to manipulate me into putting them back in my life by using the old "honor your mother and father" line, but I guess I shouldn't have expected any better reactions to abuse victims from a pastor in the Southern Baptist denomination.
They're the same denomination that had one of it's top leaders fire a man for marrying a divorced woman, even though it was public knowledge that this woman had left her first husband because he tried to kill her. Nothing has ever been done so far by the Southern Baptist Convention to punish or reprimand Mr. Patterson for this.
Back to the card, I wonder what specifically Pastor Jones means by "Christ's church". Was that a jab at the Unitarian church he knows I'm in now? Is he trying to say that only "fundigelical" churches are true churches? Likely, that it is standard belief among that culture.
Independent Fundamental Baptist cult that my sister fell so hard for.
Either way, they've proven to be a toxic church, one I won't associate with anymore, and I'm done dealing with them. Standing up for myself, and pulling myself out of abusive situations is something I have had to keep learning how to do in recent months. It's draining me, but it gets easier every time.
I'm done tolerating hate filled, egotistical people, who demand that everyone believe the same, look the same, act the same as them, who want everyone to live life according to their desires and whims. No more. I won't tolerate it.
From the nation under god, I feel it's love like a cattle prod, born free but still they hate me.