I had said back in December, shortly after The Confrontation, that I just simply didn't know what to do to rebuild social circles all over again. Some blog fans pointed me in the direction of Unitarian Universalist church, which I had heard many positive things about, and that turned out quite well, I'm found a lot of comfort in the sense of ritual and community there, as well as the fact that it's welcoming to everyone.
The congregation is quite a mix of people, 5 of their 7 board members are female, and a woman that acts in a somewhat unofficial capacity as an assistant pastor is a lesbian and a scientist with a PhD, if that gives you an idea what the congregation is like. Some Sundays, I would guess that about 20 % of the congregation is LGBT. It was really something to get used to, it was a brand new experience compared to congregations I have been in before.
Well, the church helped quite a bit with getting to meet new people, and having new experiences, but I was wondering what I should do about dating, because it's hard for me to relate to people in person. Many blog fans recommended online dating, and I finally jumped in this week (it's part of the reason why I haven't been updating the blog like I should be).
If the Unitarian church was a new experience, well, the idea of trying to date again definitely feels like navigating uncharted waters in rough seas.
A few few of my longtime online friends were trying to help me out, and a few from a group I'm a part of on Google + that I have known for a while were looking over my profile, giving recommendations, and tips they have learned from trying to navigate online dating themselves.
I was told by some to be upfront, and lay it out there, so I did, as much as I felt comfortable with, I don't go as much into extremes as here on the blog, I didn't mention anything about my family, but I talked about the basics, ex-fundamentalist, former home school kid, turned agnostic/Unitarian, enjoys dogs, volunteers for an animal shelter, INTJ on Briggs Myer scale, etc.. I posted a picture of myself, and also a separate photo of "Happy Horse", since I had mentioned having a dog, and hoped for the best.
Saint Louis University and Washington University. It was like I was sitting in the middle of a crowd at a coffee shop in St. Louis' Central West End district.
It wasn't as though I would have a problem with graduate students, a great friend of mine, Lana Hope is a graduate philosophy student. I just didn't know if they would be accepting of me, considering me a little too "blue collar" for them, since I'm a smart guy, but also a warehouse clerk.
Indeed, when going through many of the profiles, when I would see the questions they answered, many said that they wouldn't date someone who didn't already have at least a bachelor's degree or wasn't currently a student.
Oh well... I sent a few messages, got no replies from either that crowd, or other women that I had found through learning how to tweak the search parameters. A few, I noticed had actually checked my profile (the site I'm on shows visitor information), but never said anything.
Although, not all was a failure, a woman from a town near the Kentucky border in Illinois stumbled across me, and has been talking to me the last few days, I'll see how that turns out.
Sheldon's note: No, I'm not going to link to the profile or mention the site name on the blog, if you have been a long time fan of the blog, and want to see it, notify me at firstname.lastname@example.org, or let me know on Google + or Twitter.
By the way, here's Happy Horse: